Monday, March 5, 2007

One Month!



One month ago today we were in Nanchang picking up Bryn. We can't believe how the time has flown.

We had an amazing welcome from family and friends at the airport when we got home and a lot more visitors since then. (Thanks to everyone for the visits...come back soon!) All of our immediate family has been here to see Bryn except for Girard's brother and sister-in-law Dan and Leigh Ann and their family. They live in Kentucky so obviously they couldn't be here for Bryn's homecoming. We look forward to seeing them soon, though (hint, hint) and miss them lots.

Bryn has been busy growing and learning and we have, too. She's taught us a lot in the past month. She's trying very hard to crawl and keeps insisting we help her stand up. She certainly has definite ideas of what she wants and doesn't. (I had hoped she'd have a mind of her own, I just didn't expect to see it surface this early!)

Happy One Month Anniversary to all of our travel mates and big hugs to all of those amazing little girls...we miss you guys!

Sunday, March 4, 2007

Schedules

I've decided schedules are over-rated.

So far, the only schedule we have in our house is Bryn's bath time at 8 p.m. and bed time at 9 p.m. After that, anything goes. She's up at least once in the night for a bottle, anywhere from 1 a.m. to 3 a.m. Sometimes she's up for 1/2 an hour, sometimes 2 or 3. Sometimes she's awake 20 minutes after she goes to bed. Needless to say we don't rent movies to watch in the evenings. Mornings start at 7 a.m. Or maybe at 10. Naps are usually 20 minutes, unless they're 2 hours. Sometimes she gets up so late there's no time for a morning nap. All of this fits in very well with Girard's spontaneous (ha!) nature.

Mealtimes are a challenge but always entertaining. After discovering she won't eat baby food we decided to try real food. Yams are delicious but not three days in a row. Potatoes are yummy one day and get a raspberry the next. Yogurt is really good. Unless it's not. Rice noodles are always a hit though more fun when they're eaten with chopsticks, which is pretty tricky. Scrambled eggs are good but not as good as the steamed egg she ate every day for lunch in China. (Anyone out there know how to make steamed egg?) Bryn doesn't like chicken. Her dad, who can eat a whole chicken in one meal (minus the head and feet) doesn't understand this at all. She is probably the only child on the planet who doesn't like Alphagetti (we're trying everything). She does, however, LOVE Jello so we're now trying to convince ourselves that it's nutritious.


Bryn's Jello grin


Our own eating habits have changed a bit as well. While my main meal is still Cheez Ritz crackers, I've started tasting everything I feed Bryn just to show her how good it is (yum, yum...see Bryn, it's good!). Girard is eating all the leftover food I make that she refuses to eat, though he draws the line at rice cereal. The other day he was looking in the cupboards for something snack on and came across a sealed foil bag. He opened it up and started eating, sputtered a bit and said "What the @#% is this?!" Hmm...chrysanthemum tea leaves I bought in China. Poor guy has been reduced to foraging in the plants. Our dog Jessie, who has stomach problems and is only supposed to eat carrots and special low-fat vet approved dog food, now spends her time under Bryn's highchair waiting for the discards to hit the floor. Amazingly (knock wood) she hasn't been sick yet.

Our house isn't as organized as it once was which will cause endless amusement for those who know us best. My cupboards are a mess — but really, does it matter if the All Bran is between the Cheerios and the Froot Loops instead of beside the Froot Loops where they really belong? Girard used to shovel the walk after every snowfall. We're now the lazy neighbors who let things like that slide. The mailman is sliding too but what the heck.

Despite all of this Bryn is growing and is a happy little girl. She's put on close to 2 pounds in the past two weeks. She's gone from not even being able to sit up on her own to standing on her own little legs which are starting to develop rolls of baby fat. Instead of crying in the tub like she first did, she now splashes water all over the place and gives kisses to her rubber duck. She loves to sing and look at her books. She giggles and smiles and chatters and her personality is emerging more every day. We love her to pieces and can't imagine life without her. Schedules? Who cares.


Girard making sure both his girls are happy.

Friday, March 2, 2007

Travel Ramblings No. 1


Smoggy first night in Beijing


(Nanchang travelogue, first of my random thoughts of our trip to China.)

We'd still be in Nanchang if not for Gary. Some people edit words for a living (that would be me), but others do things that are useful to society, such as fix bus engines. I had a great view of everything too. We were on our way to the Nanchang airport on Feb. 9, babies and spouses in tow, when our ice-veined bus driver was faced with a dilemma. He could plough head-on into a black Audi that had suddenly crossed what can, in Nanchang, only loosely be called a centre line. The centre line in Nanchang is actually more like a guideline, in which generally traffic stays on one side or the other, but if you feel like it you can cross over and just for fun watch the vehicles scatter. Or, our bus driver could avoid a certain collision by stalling the bus and limping to the shoulder.


Another traffic tie-up in Nanchang

So we limped to the shoulder. Lucky for us it was downhill or Gary would have had to get out and push us. We were stalled, and the engine wouldn't start, and we and our kids had a flight to catch to Beijing, but I had no fear. Since Gary works with heavy equipment at a construction company in Regina, I knew a) that he might know what he's doing, and b) if he does know and doesn't have the parts or tools, he'll use good old Saskatchewan ingenuity and concoct something with binder twine and the cuff of his pants. I don't know how he did it, but Gary got the bus going. If only he knew how to fix airline toilets, but we are getting ahead of ourselves.


Gary examines the stalled bus, James supervises, frantic Cindy tries to figure out Plan B

We left Nanchang, and Jiangxi Province, on Feb. 9 with bittersweet memories. This is the province of my daughter's birth. Her first home was a couple of hundred kilometres to the southeast, in the city of Xinyu, southeast China. She's had a rough go of life so far; we hope to change that but on Feb. 9 we had only had her for four days, and while we had waited for her for months and loved her from the moment two months earlier when we first saw her photo, she had not been waiting for us. She didn't ask to join our family, and maybe if given a choice she wouldn't have wanted to. But by the time we took that bus ride out of Nanchang, she seemed somewhat content, if not a little mystified at the strange voices her parents made when they talked to her and dangled things in front of her nose.
As we left Nanchang I thought about the journey we had taken: the long flight from Vancouver to Beijing, our stomachs doing cartwheels in anticipation and fear of the unknown, my panic attacks over losing our passports and paperwork. Seated on the flight behind us were Kevin and Catherine, whom we did not yet know, but Kevin soon learned about my missing passport phobia, which provided no end of amusement. Oh the laughs we had at my expense.


Catherine and Kevin enjoy the plane trip to Beijing

We landed in Beijing on Sunday in a shroud of choking, grimy pollution, so thick I thought I could set my drink on it. We met the other couples in our group, and I was relieved to find out Tsingtao beer is not so bad after all. We were up early Monday, Feb. 5, shared breakfast with the Kazakhstan national soccer team, and soon were back at the airport to fly to Nanchang. We were a tired lot when we arrived in the afternoon, but I sensed our spirits pick up when we met our guide, Cindy, a bright, radiant university student who, more than anyone, was responsible for getting our group through the week and on the bus to the Nanchang airport with kids on our hips and our spirits intact.


Cindy and Bryn say farewell at the Nanchang airport

The rest of that first day in Nanchang is a blur, memories fading into one another. It was decided we would walk to pick up our babies from the government office, a 15 or 20 minute stroll skirting grimy bike shops, choking traffic and clogged sidewalks. We were quite the sight during our Great Leap Forward, a dozen or so Canadian couples walking in a row, picking our way through the congestion. We got more than a few gawks, but the reception was more one of bemusement than hostility. Speaking for myself, by the time we arrived at our destination on the 26th floor of the office complex, I was numb. Soon it was our turn to receive our daughter. Joy, camera flashes and screams filled the room.


First photo we have of Rae and Bryn


Girard gets a turn, and Bryn doesn't scream


The walk that produced the gawks

Was this really happening to me, I thought? Is the old me having a nap on the couch, sun in my face and dog on my lap, dreaming about becoming a dad? Truth be told, that "is it really happening to me" feeling still lingers, four weeks after the fact. So do the bittersweet memories of Nanchang, a city that did not make a good first impression. But the longer we stayed, the more we got to like the people — the courteous servers at our hotel restaurant who had to pick up after us and our kids, the gracious and smiling staff at restaurants, the families we met strolling through an amusement park, the friendly workers at Wal-Mart trying to understand my pleas to find the beer aisle and the laughs each of us had when we couldn't communicate. These are people who seem to enjoy their work, cherish their families, love their kids. Funny, then, that as glad as we were to leave Nanchang on Feb. 9 and be closer to home, we were sad that no one was there to say goodbye to our Little Miss Bryn when she left her homeland on the laps of strangers.


Little Miss Bryn in our Nanchang hotel room

Thursday, March 1, 2007

No News for Now, Just Some Photos


Hangin' out at the Great Wall


All of us at the Great Wall


Bryn LOVES her exersaucer...many thanks to Jody and Leanne for passing it along to her!


Jessie waiting for a Cheerio to hit the floor


Bryn's legs are getting stronger every day. It won't be long before she's walking at this rate!


Bryn loves her bathtime now!

Better Late Than Never



As we are prone to do, we're doing things a bit backwards. The paperwork has been long since completed, the endless wait and frustrating delays are over. We've already packed, traveled and unpacked, survived the wild bus rides in Nanchang, used squat toilets and eaten camel hump. We've walked on the Great Wall and visited Tiananmen Square and bartered with the Chinese locals for trinkets and treasures. We've met and traveled with a group of amazing people and formed friendships that, we hope, will last a lifetime. Now, after all of that, we're starting a blog. For those of you who know us well this won't come as much of a surprise. We do a lot of things backwards. Which is why, at ages 45 and 44, we have just become parents.

We've already been to China and are now back with our precious Bryn, arriving home in Saskatoon, Sask., Canada on February 16. Many people in our travel group did the smart thing — they set up their blogs months before they went to China, and updated them while there. We're not to savvy, hence the late start-up to this blog.

We'll start with posting the photos we first saw of her on December 4, 2006. We loved her from the minute we saw her and continue to love her more ever day. She's an amazing little girl!

Byrn turned one on February 10, while we were in China. You are welcome to share our journey and hers as she grows and learns more about the wide (and wild) world before her.